Treatment for a Loved One at Solace Sabah

Addiction can affect anyone, even those we love the most. In spite of who it is, living with an addict has not been easy for you. It is possible that you have tried every available means at your disposal to help your loved one. Even then, it has not been enough to bring him or her to recovery.

We understand your pain and the immense helplessness you are experiencing. You may have come to believe that there is little you can do to arrest this disease. That is the very nature of addiction. It is a chronic illness. But, like other chronic illnesses, there is hope in recovery. Rest assured, we are here for you and your loved one. You are not alone in this process.

As helpless and hopeless the situation is at the moment, you should not lose hope. In fact, you have found the answer in us. You have chosen to read this because you have taken a willing step to seek a solution for your loved one's problem. That answer lies in being willing and open-minded to give treatment a go. By contacting us, you are choosing your loved one's well-being. It's because, through recovery, you are giving him or her the opportunity to get well.

Relationships are the ties that keep people together. These bonds are so strong that not even addiction will stand in its way. It's because of love that you are willing to opt for treating your loved one. We understand that nothing will please you more than to see your loved one safe and well.

The payoff of treatment is that your loved one will find solutions to the problems of addiction. He or she will be able to live with his or her illness in ways that are productive and useful. What's more, we would have saved another life, and a precious one, at that! We have written an article on the benefits of being clean and sober. The article explains why your loved one will appreciate the move you are making for him or her right now.

At Solace Sabah, we care for your loved one as you do. We have the same interest to see him or her well as we care for our clients and their families. We value the preciousness of human life. Hence, we will go the full mile with you, and your loved one as both of you face the challenges of recovery. It's a combination of accurate science and genuine compassion that will help both you and your loved one.


For a Teen or Young Adult

There’s nothing worse than seeing your child suffering while in active addiction.  At times, as a parent, you may look for outside reasons to blame for your child's problem. External factors such as friends, schools, and places may seem justifiable. Howsoever we reason, we need to take responsibility for the process of recovery. We understand your desperation and pain. We are here to help.

It starts with suggesting treatment to your child without losing your relationship. You've spent your kid's lifetime building a parent-child bond. This connection is precious and nurturing. It needs to continue in a different form. Showing love and concern for your child, you need to suggest treatment. But, at times, to do this, would only create more tension and friction.

We have professional interventionists, who could make this necessary task easier for you. What's important here is to stop supporting your child's addiction. Follow the instructions of our interventionists. You will need to be honest about your feelings around his or her addiction. Also, you will need to be firm with the decision you have made. And that is to suggest treatment for your child’s addiction.

You are making this decision because, at this moment, he or she is unable to make that choice for him or herself.  It's at these times when hard honesty and tough love come into play. The initial process is complicated, but you will have our support the whole way. It will take courage to do this work.

We make our treatment plans tailor-made to suit the needs of our clients. Your child will receive treatment based on the problems his or her addiction presents. Your child will have exposure to CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). CBT challenges your child’s thinking. It’s important because addiction is a disease of perception. It’s necessary to have the tools to address your child’s cognitive distortions. Healing from addiction takes a complete overhaul of the addict’s belief systems.

Alongside that, there are other therapies such as DBT and motivational interviewing. DBT stands for Dialectic Behavioural Therapy. DBT helps to treat your child should they resort to self-harming behaviours like attempted suicide and inflicting self-injuries. DBT accepts your child from where he/she stands. It nurtures your child to understand the need to take loving steps towards self-care. You can call us to know more of our treatment planning. We are always here to help you with any clarification you may need.

Our treatment also includes a family program. The program is where you and your family will get an opportunity to understand addiction. We will teach you the necessary tools needed to live with a recovering addict. You will be an integral part of your child's healing process when you attend these programs. It's because, on a larger note, addiction is a family illness. There is a need to treat the family besides treating the addict. It is a holistic system of care. Do read up on our family program, by clicking on the link, here.

Your child will finish treatment with tools to help him, or her live a new addiction-free life. He or she will have to attend certain self-help groups, where at times, you could join in. AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and NA (Narcotics Anonymous) are but two of such groups. They have open meetings where members of the family can attend. It's worth sitting in these meetings to see how an addict thinks, feels, and behaves. It's a way of becoming familiar with the user's mind.

In all this, you will need to take care of yourself. It's tough to have an addict child. There are support groups that can help you too. Family members of addicts can attend Al-Anon and Nar-Anon groups. These groups will help you share the struggles faced living with an addict. These meetings may not exist in your hometown. Don’t fret. There is an online website called “”. We have written an article on how you could join this site to join online meetings. Click here for the link to the article.

It's also worth paying attention to your other children (if you have them) and spouse. Don't make your addict child's struggle an excuse to keep others out. You're all in this together. Besides that, eat clean and healthy, exercise, get enough sleep, and stay healthy. It's important to take care of yourself while you are helping your child.


For a Parent

It's one of the most difficult prospects for a child to have an addict parent. There is a reversal of roles. All children expect their parents to take care of them. To nurture and pamper them. Yet, for the child of an addict, the parenting lies on you. It's a heavy responsibility, but you're not alone to bear it.  

Addiction is a baffling and powerful illness. You may have tried other remedies to treat the disease, yet failed to no avail. We understand the pain and helpless feeling you have around your parent's addiction. There is a solution and hope in treatment. And again, we're with you all the way, so, you are not alone in this.

Approaching your parent on the subject of treatment will not be easy. Some of you may come from traditional families where respect for parents is high. Or your relationship with your parent prevents you from being honest about the truth.

Whichever circumstance it is, we have professional interventionists who can help you. To make it work, we will need your cooperation. You will need to take note of your parent's addictive behavior as well as his or her medical history.  Interventions may be necessary because the nature of addiction is denial and defense. We are helping your parent get into treatment. It's because right now, he or she is incapable of choosing that option for his or herself. We understand the fear of conflict around this, which is why we are here to help.

Once in treatment, we will teach your parent how to cope without addiction. They will undergo various individual and group therapies. You may read about these procedures, by clicking here.

Over time, they may be able to understand the effects of the addiction on themselves and their loved ones. We will take care of your parent and assess his or her health needs throughout the treatment process. For more information, do call us on our helpline. We're here to help you with any questions you may have about treatment.

As a family member, we will also need to teach you how to live with a recovering addict. To do this, we hold family workshops and sessions throughout your loved one's stay. You will also learn how to communicate with your parent in an honest and loving manner.

Living in honesty and truth is essential to the recovery process. Thus, it's necessary to practice these principles with your parent. For more information on the family program, click here.

In all this, self-care is essential. You need to take care of yourselves and your family and or;  spouse and children (should you have them). You mustn't let your parent's problem overtake your life. Get enough sleep, eat healthily, and regulate your day with productive activities. Spend time with your loved ones and do not worry so much about your parent while he or she is with us. We will take care of him or her to the best standard of treatment.

After treatment is over, it's important to get your parent to a self-help group. These groups hold daily or weekly meetings designed to help addicts in recovery. For example, NA (Narcotics Anonymous) and AA (Alcoholics Anonymous). You may attend open meetings to get to know the addict's mind. What's more, there are also meetings designed to help you, as an addict's child. You may attend Al-Anon and Nar-Anon meetings. Here, you will get the support of other children of addicts such as yourself. It's important in all this, to get a sense of fellowship.

These meetings may not exist in your hometown. Don’t worry about that. There is an online website called “”. We have written an article on how you could join this site to join online meetings. Click on this link to access the article.


For a Spouse or Partner

When addiction affects our spouse or partner, we know we are in for a life of hardship. We understand your feelings of helplessness and despair around addiction. It's possible that you've tried to help your loved one in so many ways and have come to the point of hopelessness.

Let me assure you that all is not lost. There is a remedy to addiction, and it is in treating the addict. It's possible that you are reading this because you are on the brink of giving up on a solution for your loved one. Persevere and let us attempt at finding a lasting solution for your spouse or partner. He or she deserves every opportunity out there to get well.

It may be difficult to approach your spouse or partner about seeking treatment. It's because being an addict in addiction, he or she is in denial and will be defensive to protect his or her illness. You have to understand that the addiction had served him or her when nothing else would. So, arresting the illness will not be an easy task.

If you can be honest and open about the addiction with your loved one, I would encourage you to do so. But, if it becomes too difficult, we have professional interventionists, who can help. It's important to be well-prepared for such sessions. Call us to find out more on how we conduct interventions at Solace Sabah.

In treatment, your spouse will have individual and group therapies. We've designed these therapies to target the problem areas in your loved one's life. Such areas include negative belief systems and harmful behaviors associated with the addiction. We also offer couple's therapy to ensure honesty within your relationship. It's essential to maintain open and honest communication with your partner or spouse. It helps to keep them on track.

We will train your partner or spouse how to communicate his/her needs to you. Often, lack of proper, open communication can be the primary cause of addiction in families. We’ve written more on this subject. Read our article on “Overcoming Barriers to Communication in Recovery”, to learn more.

Our family workshop program helps to bring families of addicts together. Showing unconditional love and compassion for your loved one is essential. You need to do this while having as much self-protection and boundaries in place. Keeping this delicate balance takes tremendous courage and perseverance.  It's important to attend this program as you will learn more about the disease. We will teach you how to live with your spouse or partner in recovery. Have a look at our family program, by clicking here. Should you have any questions, feel free to call us.

In this entire process, self-care is a must. It includes eating well, exercising, and being in the company of nurturing loved ones. They could be your parents, children (should you have any), or trusted friends. It’s important to not be too dependent on your addicted loved one. You need to seek support and nurture from beyond your relationship.

Do not let your loved one's illness destroy your life and well-being. It's important to take care of yourself and seek counseling and therapy. You could be suffering from the trauma of repeated abuse. It came as a result of your loved one's addictive behavior. Hence, self-care is important, even if it means an eventual separation from your loved one. Let's hope it doesn't come to that, but your happiness takes priority over all else.

After treatment, your spouse or partner will need to attend local self-help groups. These groups consist of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) or NA (Narcotics Anonymous). It would be helpful to attend their open-meetings, should you get the chance. At these meetings, you will learn, first-hand, the mind of the addict. You will get a better perspective on addiction. Also, you may gain insight from other users present on the nature of the disease and recovery from it.

As for yourself, you need to attend self-help groups catered to family and friends of addicts. These are the Al-Anon, S-Anon, and Nar-Anon groups. They consist of people who care for addicts, like yourself, who are going through the same problem. Developing your own sense of fellowship and support is essential. Always remember, you are never alone in this.

For some, these meetings may not exist in your hometown. Don’t worry about that. There is an online website called “”. We have written an article on how you could join this site to join online meetings. Click on this link to access the article.


For a Friend or a Relative

It's never easy when a close friend or relative suffers from addiction.  The helplessness and powerlessness can be unbearable. You may have tried as many ways to help him, or her reconnect with life. Yet, your efforts have come to nothing. But, you're reading this hoping once again, against all the odds, that here is a solution. We understand how you feel as we've been there ourselves. We have found the solution in treating the still suffering addict.

Addiction is a chronic illness. Like diabetes and cancer, there is no cure. But, recovery is possible. Treatment helps to teach users how to live in recovery rather than addiction. Arresting the disease this way has benefited many.

There is also a chance that you could have supported your friend's or relative's habit. You may have cleaned up after his or her mess, allowed him to stay the night after a binge, or even paid him to make ends meet. Whatever you had done, it did not help your friend or relative stay clean. It's about time that he got the right treatment for his problem.

All this starts with approaching your friend or relative, to consider treatment. It may not be easy to approach this subject without hesitation and resistance. Your loved one will defend his or her right to use. He or she may also be in denial about the extent of his or her problems about addiction. In this case, talking about treatment might be useless. In such cases, we recommend an intervention. At Solace Sabah, our interventionists will be able to work up a plan to help your friend or relative seek treatment. You can call us to find out more about how we deal with interventions. Or read here about how we conduct interventions at Solace Sabah.

As soon as your relative or friend enters treatment, he will get the help he needs to overcome this illness. We provide therapies to aid your friend or relative, to reflect on his or her life in addiction. He or she will see the effects of his or her harmful behavior and negative thinking on others. In time, he or she will have the tools needed to get well.

At the same time, we invite you to be a part of his or her recovery process. We have a family or friends workshop or program to help you understand addiction. We will teach you the tools you need to have an honest and fruitful relationship. Open communication is essential to creating a beneficial relationship. In these sessions, you will learn how to do that. Do take a closer look at our family program, by clicking here. Or you could call us for more information.

As your loved one undergoes treatment, you need to take care of yourself. Self-care includes doing all the things that you need to do, to stay healthy. Take care of your diet, exercise well, and connect with your family and friends. Do not let your friend's or relative's illness take over your life. He or she is in the best place for his, or her problem. You may need to take therapy if, at any time, you face issues, which are difficult to digest. As your happiness is a priority, you might need to break ties with your addicted loved ones. When it comes to dealing with addicts, self-care is a must.

Towards the end of treatment, your friend or relation will need to attend support groups. These self-help groups consist of AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) and NA (Narcotics Anonymous). You might be able to join an open-meeting. If you get this chance, we encourage you to take it. It's an ingenious way of getting to know addiction, first-hand. You will meet with all kinds of addicts there, from the newcomer, like your friend or relative; to the old timer. The old-timers could be timely allies in learning about recovery.

You will also need to go to a self-help group. As mentioned earlier, self-care is important. The groups you will be attending consist of Al-Anon and Nar-Anon. People who participate in these groups are carers for addicts, like yourself. Some of them could be children, spouses, friends, or relatives of the addict. Here, you will learn how to share your problems living with the addict, and how to find the best practices. Support and fellowship are the keys to a saner relationship with your loved one as well as with yourself.

You may be in a place that does not have any meetings. If this is so, you will need to attend online meetings. There is an online website called “”. We have written an article on how you could join this site to join online meetings. Click on this link to access the article.


Treating a Loved One at Solace Sabah

Bringing your loved one into treatment is the best thing you could do for them. Addiction is a fatal and chronic disease. Over time, it will get worse never better. When you refer a loved one for treatment, you’re stopping the natural progression of this illness. You are saving a life. At this moment, your loved one may not be very thankful for your actions. But, given time, they will be more than grateful. It’s because you cared enough to help. You cared enough to give them the love they could not give themselves. Give us a call and let us help you, help your loved ones seek treatment from addiction. Call us now.